Woman to Woman

Her too...But She Operates

Too often, I allowed myself to be led blindly—whether by the words of others in business, relationships, family, or media. Looking back, I realize how easily I had placed my trust in narratives that were never truly my own.

As the floodgates of memory opened, every mistake, wrong decision, and lie I had ever told came rushing back. It hit me: words are not just words. Words hold weight and mean something. I didn’t want to continue being part of a cycle that clouded my reality, let alone perpetuate the same for someone else.

On November 3, 2024, I decided to reach out to her. Neil’s ex-wife. I wanted to right a wrong. I didn’t know what to expect. She and Neil had been divorced, and I wasn’t sure if she would respond at all. But I felt an overwhelming need to give her a heads-up, to let her know what I’d uncovered. To my surprise, she responded.

She picked the date and time for our conversation, and on November 7, we finally spoke on the phone. By then, I had already pieced together much of Neil’s hidden agendas and manipulative strategies. Initially, the call felt refreshing—an open conversation without outside influence. We were listening to each other as individuals, not as what others said we were. But what I thought was a moment of clarity quickly became something else. It didn’t take long to realize she too held a position in the operation.

Her questions during our conversation were deliberate and calculated, mainly about specific holidays and dates we had spent together. She remained calm until I mentioned a trip to the Dominican Republic. Her demeanor shifted "OH REALLY", but I dismissed it as her reaction to realizing the depth of Neil’s deception.

We were both sitting in our cars during the call—she wanted privacy from her kids, and I wanted the same. When I brought up the other women I knew Neil had been involved with, she answered almost too quickly, as though she had a file on them. However, the moment I mentioned  "Amy"  Neil’s previous partner before me, She flushed the toilet and repeated the same exact response from when I mentioned "Heart of Stephanie" 

Unless she had a toilet in her car, which I doubt, it was clear that something wasn’t adding up. The timing was too precise, especially since she had just assured me she was sitting in her vehicle. It was then that I pieced together that she too was using the same communication style Neil uses in his operation.

Like I mentioned in  "Neil Holiday", Neil’s tendency to call me by his ex-wife’s name or mistake me for her was one of the key revelations that brought his operation, particularly "Evan-Blox." and "deadpool" to light.

I ended the conversation by telling her, "reclaim your power," though it was clear she already knew Neil’s games and likely played a part in them. Neil’s control extended not just to her but to her and his kids as well.

Decoded Terms in Covert Communication

Key point in our conversation that stood out to me and learned its meaning

1. Holiday in Portugal: She mentioned her holiday in Portugal (date i can not recall) and i learned Portugal, often referenced as neutral during WWII, symbolizing a covert "safe zone" for planning.

2. Work in Las Vegas: Las Vegas could be used to represent risk-taking, gambling, or high-stakes operations— tied to financial or personal risks Neil imposed.

3. Flushing of the toilet after name mentions: Indicate acknowledgment, dismissal, or "flushing out" sensitive information. The repetition of the same sentence before and after reinforces this signal as intentional.

4. Holiday in the Dominican Republic: signify a destination used for discreet activities or a meeting point.

5. November 7: 11/7 Selected by her signify alignment, duality, or transition, often used as a covert signal to initiate or synchronize actions. The reversal potential (7/11)imply mirrored strategies or deception tactics.

   
   

   Takeaways

6. Recognize Manipulation Through Patterns: Neil’s tactics often involved electronic devices, holidays, and finances to maintain power and influence. Be mindful of recurring behaviors or situations that feel engineered to control outcomes.

7. Pay Attention to Signals: This style of communication can be subtle but revealing. Odd behaviors, repeated phrases, or even environmental sounds (like a toilet flush) can be clues to deeper manipulation.

8. Stay Grounded in Conversations: If you suspect manipulation, maintain your composure. Use neutral language and document your observations. Avoid reacting emotionally, as it may be used against you.

9. Identify Power Dynamics: In relationships or professional environments, question decisions that consistently feel one-sided or overly controlled. Ask yourself: Who benefits from this arrangement? Even if the "benefits" are presented in an alluring way.

10. Learn to Communicate with Intention: The art of speaking less and saying more is vital. Developing awareness of coded language and covert signals can empower you to protect yourself and others.

    
    

Closer

Despite realizing the role she played, it’s important not to let experiences like these turn you into a "mean girl." Neil’s control wasn’t just about the women in his life—it was about maintaining power over everyone involved. By understanding his tactics and learning to recognize covert communication, you can reclaim your power and protect your peace. This chapter serves as a reminder: even in the darkest manipulations, knowledge and awareness are your strongest allies.

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